Once you’ve gotten comfortable with lady who shares your interests and makes your heart flutter, you can move on to a phone conversation or an offline face-to-face. When you get together for the first time, be sure to observe some basics — take care of your own transportation, meet in a public place, and don’t rush into anything. There’ll be plenty of time to get better acquainted:
- Exchange a good few messages before meeting. You may feel you’ve “clicked” immediately with someone — but the more you know about a date, the better.
- Don’t give out your phone number or address unless you’re really, really sure. If you do ring someone, and you’re asked to reverse the charges on a call, don’t. Your number appears on their phone bill.
- Arrange to meet in a public place. Do not invite your first date round to your place. Lunchtime dates are great fun, and if you’re at work they give a perfect “get-out” excuse if things aren’t going too well.
- Do not accept a lift — make your own way there and back.
- Do discuss the dress code before the date: there’s nothing more embarrassing than dressing down when they’ve dressed up.
- Trust yourself. If you’re having doubts, call the date off and think about it at leisure.
- Do let someone close to you know where you’re going and who you’re meeting.